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The Emotional Truth Trap: When Feelings Overshadow Fact

When “Rude” Becomes Grounds for Punishment In my work with Parks and Recreation departments, I’ve seen a pattern emerge among staff at community centers. A patron might be curt, condescending, or simply unfriendly, and the immediate request from staff is: “Can we ban them? They were rude.” It’s understandable. No one enjoys being spoken to disrespectfully. Rudeness stings. But here’s the problem: there’s no policy against being rude. Unless a patron is blatantly harassing som

Oct 9

The Benefits of Being an Outsider

I’ve seen this time and time again—whether it’s working with librarians, coaching leaders, or even parenting my own daughter: who the feedback comes from can be just as important as how it’s delivered. Me playing piano at 3 years old. Take, for example, when I first led the assertiveness training for library staff. The manager wanted their team to set clearer boundaries with patrons and with each other. They wanted to avoid burnout or tense situations escalating. And while

Jul 31

Asserting Boundaries When Tested - Lessons from a 10 year old

My daughter has a friend who consistently illustrates just how hard it can be to hold a boundary. Recently, she told me about a situation at school. There’s a clear rule: students do not ask adults their age. No exceptions. One day, they had a guest speaker, and this friend of hers immediately asked, “How old are you?” Her classmates quickly reminded her, “Hey, we’re not supposed to ask adults their age.” And her friend’s response? “I know, I just want to know how old she

Apr 3

The Art of Conversational Agility: Leading with Empathy Without Losing Focus

One of the biggest challenges leaders face today is balancing emotional intelligence with the need to get things done. I recently spoke with a leader who shared a frustration I’ve heard more and more lately— emerging managers are spending so much time helping their teams process emotions that productivity is suffering . And it’s leaving them exhausted. They want to be supportive. They want to create a psychologically safe workplace. But when every conversation turns into

Feb 20

About Ariana Friedlander, MPA

Real leadership isn’t about power or titles. It’s about guiding others to co-create positive change collectively. That’s the work I’ve done for decades. For over 20 years, I’ve helped mission-driven leaders navigate the hardest parts of their work - and themselves - with compassion and clarity.

Much to my surprise, in 2017 I found myself navigating complex trauma that turned my life - personally and professionally - upside down.

Normal, everyday tasks felt like insurmountable obstacles. And when I tried to push through, I felt like I was being stabbed in the heart. The pain, the discomfort, the overwhelm were all too much. I not only felt hopelessly stuck, I was worried it would never end and I wouldn’t be able to support my family.

Then I realized, I couldn’t control what happens outside but I could chose how I respond. I learned how to notice, name and navigate my inner-experiences so I wasn’t controlled by my trauma. I was able to do that because I found communities, both personally and professionally, that supported my healing and growth.

Today, I bring neuroscience research, trauma-informed practices, and a whole-person approach to everything I do, as a writer, coach, trainer, facilitator, parent and human. Everything I shared is based on both, research and my own personal experience. Because you deserve more than just another book to read or podcast to listen to — you deserve to be seen, validated and given a safe space to become the leader you want to be.