Ariana FriedlanderNov 9, 20215 minIs hypocrisy the elephant in the room?I have a friend who’s been dealing with a disagreement with a neighbor. His neighbor sports a bumper sticker encouraging, “In a world...
Ariana FriedlanderOct 19, 20213 minThe mystical effects of finding long-lost memoriesThere's something almost mystical about the way our memories work. A sight, sound, smell or taste can bring back a swarm of recollections...
Ariana FriedlanderSep 14, 20214 min"I'll talk to your father""I'll talk to your father." The mother amiably says to her distressed child. This is a scene we have all encountered, be it personally or...
Ariana FriedlanderSep 7, 20213 minThat thing Giraffes doUpon successfully fleeing to safety after the threat of an attack, a giraffe will shake. It turns out a lot of animals do this. By...
Ariana FriedlanderAug 26, 20213 minThe beautiful thing about technologyThe beautiful thing about technology is that I can publish my writing while I'm on vacation without even touching a computer or...
Ariana FriedlanderAug 10, 20213 min"Burning bridges" for the right reasonsAs a lifelong peacekeeper who is also comfortable openly navigating conflict with compassion, I rarely "burn bridges." So, in those few...
Ariana FriedlanderAug 5, 20213 minReclaim Your Power by Tracking Triggers"Triggers are everywhere," my client, we'll call her Dee, observed as we were checking in on her progress since our last session. Dee...
Ariana FriedlanderAug 3, 20212 minTo Mute or Not to Mute“Of course, we want people to mute unless speaking.” I said presumptuously while preparing for a virtual retreat I facilitated earlier...
Ariana FriedlanderJul 29, 20213 minRedirecting the cascading effects of painA few years ago, whenever I experienced rejection I felt like I was being stabbed in the heart. Immediately, my thoughts spiraled into an...
Ariana FriedlanderJul 15, 20213 minStuck in a loop? Try interrupting it!As Marie sat in yet another interview she froze again. Her inner critic was admonishing her for not knowing the answers to the questions....
Ariana FriedlanderJul 13, 20213 min"Let's go to the electrical boxes."I was out for a walk with my family last month. We were at the local museum parking lot, which has many interesting treasures to explore....
Ariana FriedlanderJul 6, 20212 minThe danger in swatting fliesI once watched a biker crash because they were swatting away a swarm of gnats while riding along a trail. These particular gnats were...
Ariana FriedlanderJul 1, 20213 minThe Safety of KnowingWhen Lewis came to me for coaching, he was tired of being stuck in an unhealthy pattern. There were too many fires to put out at work and...
Ariana FriedlanderJun 29, 20213 min"It's pronounced the way it's spelled"Working with clients across different industries affords me a lot of exciting opportunities to learn. It also means I commonly encounter...
Ariana FriedlanderJun 24, 20215 minUse the Trigger Reaction Loop to reclaim your powerI hadn't even been at this networking event 20 minutes before I was triggered. It was a reunion with a peer group I belonged to a few...
Ariana FriedlanderJun 1, 20215 minI used to believe I was stupid because I suffered from test anxietyAs a kid, anytime I sat down to take a test I would freeze up and struggle to recall information that I readily knew just hours before....
Ariana FriedlanderMay 25, 20213 minGetting stuck in the mudDuring droughts, the water recedes dramatically in Horsetooth Reservoir. As the shoreline shifts, dense mud is exposed. It's the kind of...
Ariana FriedlanderMay 11, 20212 minTo be or not to be like a bunnyThe other week my cat alerted me that two baby bunnies had fallen into the window well. They were huddled together while she meowed...
Ariana FriedlanderMay 4, 20214 minWhat to do if you're hidingI recently gave a talk on the Neuroscience of Conversation to a group of job seekers who are all currently unemployed. As part of the...
Ariana FriedlanderApr 29, 20213 minTake back control of your life by unlocking the power of the pauseMany clients come to me when they're experiencing a disconnect between who they strive to be and how they're showing up. Take Lisa for...