Ariana FriedlanderSep 28, 20213 min"I can't say that"After listening to a client divulge concerns that he'd been carrying around for a while, I asked. "What if you said that to your boss?"...
Ariana FriedlanderSep 21, 20214 min"Think, think, think"Sometimes I feel like Winnie the Pooh. One arm wrapped around my body with my other hand tapping my head saying, "Think, think, think."...
Ariana FriedlanderSep 16, 20213 minAre you on track to meet your goals for 2021?As I've reconnected with friends and colleagues lately, we typically take a few minutes to recall the last time we had seen each other....
Ariana FriedlanderSep 14, 20214 min"I'll talk to your father""I'll talk to your father." The mother amiably says to her distressed child. This is a scene we have all encountered, be it personally or...
Ariana FriedlanderSep 9, 20213 minWho's on your team?Students at my daughter's school have the same teacher for two years. When she returned this fall the thing that created the most stress...
Ariana FriedlanderSep 7, 20213 minThat thing Giraffes doUpon successfully fleeing to safety after the threat of an attack, a giraffe will shake. It turns out a lot of animals do this. By...
Ariana FriedlanderSep 2, 20213 minImprove your AIM when navigating changeLast week I returned to Shadowcliff for the first time since the East Troublesome Fire ravaged Grand County last fall. It was the...
Ariana FriedlanderAug 17, 20215 minYour insecurity is biting me in the ass"I'm just so disappointed. This project has turned out nothing like I envisioned it to be." As the leader relayed his feelings, the...
Ariana FriedlanderAug 12, 20213 minCutting thru the noise to get to the heart of it"This changes everything," my client relayed to me as he finished describing what he had just learned at a conference. "That's awesome....
Ariana FriedlanderAug 10, 20213 min"Burning bridges" for the right reasonsAs a lifelong peacekeeper who is also comfortable openly navigating conflict with compassion, I rarely "burn bridges." So, in those few...
Ariana FriedlanderAug 5, 20213 minReclaim Your Power by Tracking Triggers"Triggers are everywhere," my client, we'll call her Dee, observed as we were checking in on her progress since our last session. Dee...
Ariana FriedlanderJul 29, 20213 minRedirecting the cascading effects of painA few years ago, whenever I experienced rejection I felt like I was being stabbed in the heart. Immediately, my thoughts spiraled into an...
Ariana FriedlanderJul 27, 20215 minThe Beauty in "Oh No!" momentsA few years ago, I was bustling about my kitchen, putting clean dishes away while deep in thought. We have a sneaky cabinet that's tucked...
Ariana FriedlanderJul 15, 20213 minStuck in a loop? Try interrupting it!As Marie sat in yet another interview she froze again. Her inner critic was admonishing her for not knowing the answers to the questions....
Ariana FriedlanderJul 13, 20213 min"Let's go to the electrical boxes."I was out for a walk with my family last month. We were at the local museum parking lot, which has many interesting treasures to explore....
Ariana FriedlanderJul 8, 20213 minFeeling anxious about what you're creating? Here's one thing that'll cure your ailsI recently served on a team tasked with guiding our co-housing community through the process of choosing paint colors for the outside of...
Ariana FriedlanderJul 1, 20213 minThe Safety of KnowingWhen Lewis came to me for coaching, he was tired of being stuck in an unhealthy pattern. There were too many fires to put out at work and...
Ariana FriedlanderJun 24, 20215 minUse the Trigger Reaction Loop to reclaim your powerI hadn't even been at this networking event 20 minutes before I was triggered. It was a reunion with a peer group I belonged to a few...
Ariana FriedlanderJun 22, 20214 minImaginative play & planning"Now let's pretend you made me a bathing suit with purple flowers." My daughter instructs me as I play with her. At different points, I...
Ariana FriedlanderJun 17, 20214 min"What do I need today?" and other inspiration from Journal Jammer Melyssa MeadEarly on in my career, I struggled to find places that adequately supported my professional development. As a self-described misfit, I...