A few months into college, I stopped automatically evacuating when the fire alarm went off in the middle of the night. If you've ever lived in a dorm, you probably know the drill. The alarm blares. Everyone stumbles out of bed. People throw coats over pajamas and shuffle outside into the cold, grumbling as they wait for permission to return. At first, I followed the rules every time. But after enough false alarms - usually burnt popcorn, an overheated microwave, or someone ma

Like a lot of people, I’ve been watching the NBA Finals. But I haven’t just been watching basketball. I’ve been watching the nervous systems of the teams. Photo by Patrick McDermott on Getty Images As someone who spends my days helping leaders navigate difficult conversations, organizational change, conflict, and high-pressure situations, I see something in sports that often gets overlooked. At the highest levels of competition, talent is rarely the differentiator. Everyone i

Growth is rarely neat. This article explores the messy process of speaking up, breaking people-pleasing patterns, and learning to hold both pride and shame with accountability and compassion.

Some years start with crisp plans and fresh notebooks…and end with a pile of should’ves. Mine did. In 2017, right after publishing A Misfit Entrepreneur’s Guide to Building a Business Your Way , I mapped bold programs and growth goals. I was energized, clear, and ready. And then I wasn’t. A wave of unprocessed, complex trauma pulled me under. Tasks that used to be simple, sending a newsletter, attending a networking event, pitching a perspective client, felt like climbing a c

Many of us grew up with a single story about Thanksgiving - a harmonious feast celebrating the harvest between pilgrims and Native Americans filled with shared gratitude. We have traditions, gathering with friends and family to give thanks. That white-centric narrative leaves out another living truth. For Native peoples, Thanksgiving is a Day of Mourning rooted in profound loss, violence, and ongoing harm. If you’ve grown up believing one story of Thanksgiving, holding both o

In one of my recent coaching conversations, a leader described the entrenched behaviors on their team: gossiping, silos, and in-groups vs. out-groups. On the surface, it looked like toxicity. Underneath, it was something more primal—our wolf pack brain at work. The wolf pack brain (AKA the limbic system ) is constantly scanning for safety and belonging. It drives us to position ourselves in ways that help us survive in groups. And one of the predictable triggers it responds t

Lately, I’ve been fascinated by paradoxes—the tensions between what our human wiring tells us to do and what we actually need in order to...

I didn’t know it was wrong. Because I thought it was normal. Growing up, there was a lot of arguing and yelling in my family. It was...

A few months ago, a mentor challenged me by asking, "When are you going to stop letting your Trauma define you, Ariana?" I back pedaled,...