The other day, on the walk from my daughter’s school to the car, we overheard a teenager listing her instruments: “I know how to play piano. I know how to play clarinet…” My daughter, who’s been studying piano for 5 years, looked up and asked, “What does it mean  to know how to play the piano?” Such a simple question. Such a revealing one. We say “I know” as if there’s a finish line. But most meaningful skills don’t work that way. Knowledge expands. Context shifts. Our craft

In one of my recent coaching conversations, a leader described the entrenched behaviors on their team: gossiping, silos, and in-groups vs. out-groups. On the surface, it looked like toxicity. Underneath, it was something more primal—our wolf pack brain at work. The wolf pack brain (AKA the limbic system ) is constantly scanning for safety and belonging. It drives us to position ourselves in ways that help us survive in groups. And one of the predictable triggers it responds t

Lately, I’ve been fascinated by paradoxes—the tensions between what our human wiring tells us to do and what we actually need in order to...

I didn’t know it was wrong.   Because I thought it was normal. Growing up, there was a lot of arguing and yelling in my family. It was...

I recently met with my mastermind group, a collective of trusted peers I’ve known for over five years. Over time, we’ve experimented with...

A few months ago, a mentor challenged me by asking, "When are you going to stop letting your Trauma define you, Ariana?" I back pedaled,...

I remember the first few retreats I facilitated early on in my business. I felt this pressure to know all the things and have all the...

Drunk drivers tend to be less hurt in car accidents than the sober people they hit. It's a strange and all-be-it unfair phenomenon. A lot...